Dec 02 2008
Getting Started
THIS is one of THE absolute and most painfully difficult aspects of my husband’s ADD. (Actually, it’s now named ADHD, but who cares!)
Getting started, whether on a menial task, a project with a deadline, or something with negative (or expensive) consequences, is a daily struggle with this ADDer. I have come to learn that it’s a common problem among those with ADD. I’ve witnessed behavior such as avoidance and procrastination. Sometimes, to avoid a task, another larger and more difficult task is taken on that most likely will not get finished.
I first noticed this behavior, when we starting living together, 7 years ago. Instead of taking clothes to the apartment laundry room, this ADDer decided to MAKE a laundry bag. I walked in the room to find him sewing one - by hand! It was then I realized, after announcing how impressed and grateful I was, that he was avoiding doing the laundry.
As a non-ADDer, I can relate by stating that when I have a task at work that I’m not sure how to begin, or I’m anxious about part of it, I find myself doing every little back-burner job on my plate, while all the time telling myself I’ll get to it just as soon as I have time.
Next time - some incredible tales of procrastination!
